Ever have one of those days where everything that could go wrong, does go wrong? Maybe you’re sitting in traffic, already late, and someone cuts you off. Or you’ve had a stressful day, and as soon as you get home, you find your kids have turned the living room into a disaster zone. It’s all too easy to react, to let that frustration spill over.
But what if, in moments like these, we chose a different path? What if we went against the grain and responded with something unexpected—something life-giving?
This week, we talked about the power of the “over-under” reaction. When life throws something challenging our way, this reaction means we respond with surprising kindness, patience, and grace—overcoming negativity by going under our initial, impulsive reactions.
Embracing the “Over-Under” Reaction
Jesus teaches us this idea when He says, “If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also” (Matthew 5:39). He’s not talking about letting others walk all over us. Instead, He’s challenging us to respond in a way that disrupts cycles of anger and negativity. He’s asking us to be more intentional, to think about the impact of our reactions on others and to respond in a way that reflects the heart of God.
In a culture that often applauds quick comebacks and sharp responses, choosing to take a deep breath, to pause, and to respond with grace is radical. It’s a powerful way to reflect Christ’s love in our lives and to bring peace to even the tensest situations.
Why Our Reactions Matter
Most of us have seen how one reaction can change the course of an entire day—both ours and others’. A rude comment can lead to more hostility, while a simple kind word can ease tension in an instant. When we choose an “over-under” reaction, we’re refusing to let negativity dictate our responses. Instead, we’re choosing something bigger: the opportunity to show Jesus in every moment.
This kind of reaction also transforms us. Each time we pause and choose patience over anger, humility over pride, and kindness over frustration, we grow closer to the people God calls us to be. We’re more open to the Spirit, more attuned to God’s presence in the ordinary and messy parts of life.
How to Put It into Practice
Putting the “over-under” reaction into practice doesn’t mean you won’t feel anger or frustration. But it does mean choosing to pause, to take a deep breath, and to ask God to guide your response. Here are a few ways to start:
Pause and Pray: Before you respond to a challenging situation, take a moment to pray. Ask God for wisdom and patience. Simply pausing gives space for the Holy Spirit to work.
Consider the Bigger Picture: Remember that our goal is not just to be right, but to reflect Jesus’ love. This mindset shift can change how we view every reaction opportunity.
Choose Kindness: When tempted to respond with anger, consider what a kind response might look like. What might it mean for the other person, and how might it change the atmosphere around you?
Trust God’s Strength: We’re not expected to have this patience or kindness on our own. God empowers us to live out these responses. Lean into that strength and know He’s working in you.
A Challenge for This Week
This week, I invite you to take on the “over-under” challenge. When you’re tempted to react with frustration, pause and consider how you might respond differently. Choose grace. Choose kindness. Choose to reflect the love and patience of Jesus.
You might be surprised at what happens. Your kind reaction could shift someone’s day, open a door for meaningful conversation, or simply bring peace to your own heart.
In a world that so often reacts with anger, let’s be the people who show love. Let’s make space for God’s Spirit to guide us, helping us choose patience over impulse, grace over frustration, and love over all. Remember, each of these small choices builds a life that reflects Jesus in the most powerful ways. So, go out this week and practice that “over-under” reaction. You never know the difference it might make.